Living Gigantic Lives

I believe that each and every one of us has the ability to live gigantic lives.  I don’t mean run of the mill gigantic lives, like professional athletes, or actors.  I mean GIGANTIC LIVES.  Lives in which you are bigger than you ever imagined you could be.  How do you get big?  By making a positive impact on someone else’s life.john-torcasio-564037-unsplash 

The state of the world is the proof that we are not living gigantically.  In fact, it’s proof that the vast majority of the 7 billion + people on this earth are living very, very, small lives.

The World Never Changes.

In reality our world has been the same since the beginning of time.  We are living in a world filled with hatred for one another, a world filled with fear, with war, with famine, and kids who go to bed hungry.  A world with kidnappings, and rape, and murder, and pestilence.  A world where the haves lord over the have-nots.  Where we refuse to treat others with dignity just because they look different from us, or dress different from us, or speak different from us, or have a job we would never lower ourselves to have, or because they don’t have a job at all.  The homeless, the sick, the incarcerated, are all looked down upon. 

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Read a few history books, or even the Old Testament and you’ll see that I’m right.  Man hasn’t changed.  In centuries, man hasn’t changed.

Why Hasn’t Man Changed The World For Centuries?

The reason he hasn’t changed is fear.  Now,  you’re human, so you know I can fill a book and still wouldn’t be able to list all of the fears that man has created for himself, but those fears don’t matter, because it’s one fear and one fear alone that keeps us stuck in the same world our ancestors were stuck in. 

It’s our fear to live into our true potential as human beings.  We are afraid to live gigantically, even though each and every one of us was born with the capacity to do so.  It doesn’t matter what country, or family, or body, we were born into.  We all have the capacity to live much bigger then we are.  Much more powerfully then we are.

Our Real Power Is Our Compassion.

Our true potential, our real power, lies in our compassion for each other.  It lies in our ability to love each other unconditionally.  It lies in our creativity to imagine and then build another way to exist in this world.

Think of it!  Can you imagine what this world would look like if we chose to live in a mindset of abundance.  One where we truly believed that, to quote Zig Ziglar, “We can have anything we want in life, we just have to help enough other people get what they want.”nadi-whatisdelirium-313214-unsplash 

Zig actually said that from a utopian mindset.  In our world today, there are billions of people who have needs, not just wants, but real survival based needs. 

Our Needs Aren’t Being Met.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, are physiological, safety, love/belonging, self esteem, self actualization.

With today’s technology and delivery systems we should see 7 billion + people in the self actualization stage.  But we don’t, do we? 

We see billions of people in the bottom level, the physiological level, where they are struggling every day for air, water, food, clothing and shelter.  This alone should be absolutely unacceptable to us.  This alone should be driving us to be living much bigger lives, trying to level the playing field, by making it possible for every human to have these basic survival needs met.

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With today’s technology we should never have people in this world who live in fear of their physical safety, the safety of their health, the safety of their nest eggs.  We should never have to fear someone will take these away from us once we have them.

Technology alone can solve these issues for the most part, the upper 3 levels of the hierarchy pyramid, love/belonging, self-esteem, self actualization, is what would guarantee that the bottom 2 are secure. 

The upper 3 levels may even take care of them selves if the bottom 2 were guaranteed. 

It’s Not An ISM.

I’m not talking socialism, or communism or any other kind of ism.  I’m talking about getting out side of yourself and doing your part, what ever that looks like, to make sure every one of us has a chance to live big.  To live to our full potential.  To live gigantically.

That could look like being the best teacher you can be.  That could show up as being the best scout leader, or soccer coach you can be.

heather-mount-607071-unsplashIt could be providing a blanket to the homeless person who sleeps in the bushes out side of the building where you work.  Maybe it’s creating a real education program to the incarcerated that doesn’t need federal funding to survive. 

Maybe it’s donating to your local free clinic, to help the unhealthy get healthy and able to work again.  Maybe it’s giving a job to someone who really needs it. 

Maybe it’s just standing up for someone who is being bullied, and maybe it’s just being kind to everyone you meet on any given day.

You’re probably thinking that some of these sound like little things.  My question to you is, are you even doing the little things?

Little things, done consistently, with a purpose, over time can become big things.  Even the little behaviors can have a huge impact on the lives of the person on the receiving end.

I don’t know what living up to your potential looks like for you.  I’m not even sure what it looks like for me. 

Here’s the fun part, whenever I think that I’ve reached my potential, I look up and realize that there is so much more I’m capable of achieving, creating, doing, giving, being.

It’s entirely possible that I may never reach my full potential to live a gigantic life in the years I have on this planet.  BUT, just imagine how impactful I can be along the way!  You have the ability to be positively impactful, too.  We all do.  We all must.

Is This Just Some Weird Tangent?

You may know that I teach people how to build their most powerful personal network, and you’re probably wondering why I’ve gone off on this tangent of Living Gigantic Lives.  Maybe, just maybe, I have a point.

What if, now open your minds, what if, when you walked into that next networking event you weren’t looking for your next lead?  In know, a weird thought, but hang in there with me.

What if, now keep your minds open, you were able to look around the room and be able to determine who were living their lives small and who were living their lives gigantically?

If you could do this, who would you walk up to, and why?  

What do you think this says about your efforts to live gigantically, and why?

Could it be possible that we can live gigantically and don’t even know we’re doing it?

Really take the time to think about your answers.

This could be my positive impact on your life.  This whole article could possibly be me living gigantically in the world.  I’ll only know if you tell me what your answers to these questions are, for you.

Please share your thoughts.  I do really want to know what you think.

What Is A Real Network?

Networking.  This is a word that we throw around regularly, as in, “I’m going to a networking meeting.”, or “I need to network more.”, or “I wish I had a network.”

Have you ever stopped to think about what a network really is?  Everyone seems to have their own idea of what that word means.

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Some people imagine that their net is more like a spider web, strategically placed, and covered with a sticky substance that will capture their prey (read client), and gives the client no other choice but then to work with them.  Once the client is caught, a new net must be built in a strategic place to catch the next client.  This is an extremely transactional network.  Think of most retailers.

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Some people imagine their net is more like a fisherman’s net.  One that is thrown out into the seas (read meetings and cocktail parties) to catch any fish (read potential client) that happens to swim buy and again gives that client no other choice then to work with them.  The only way anyone will get into the net is when the fisherman throws it out and traps them, and getting out is a bit problematic.  Think of utility companies, cell phone carriers, cable companies, etc.

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Some people imagine their network is more like a solar system with themselves as the sun and the people they find to work with revolving around them like planets, but the planets never interact with each other.  This net is gravitational, invisible to the eye, but yet has somehow kept the planets (read clients) from wandering off into deep space.  If the gravitational force weakens the clients will wander off to a new solar system.  Think of doctors, and coaches.

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I like to imagine my network as more like a highway system.  It exists for the benefit of anyone I chooses to let on it.  It’s purpose is to propell everyone to the place they want to go as quickly as possible.  It works best when everyone on it is co-operating with each other and looking out for each other.  A well built highway system will get the drivers anywhere they want to go, more efficiantly then they could have gotten there using any other road system.  

My highway system network is built for more then just clients.  I also want my friends, family, mentors, potential clients, past clients, anyone whom I believe would find benefit to using my system, to have access to it.  

The catch is that I must give someone access to my highway system.  Not just anyone can hop on.  Once I give someone access they must treat the system and the other people on the highway with respect.  They may not throw trash out of their car windows, they may not run over those whom they percieve to be in their way.  

If along the route they find someone who needs help and they have the skills to help them, they can expect to be asked to use those skills for their benefit.  The same will be expected of the person they’ve helped.  

This system only works when the drivers understand that generosity and reciprocity will keep this highway working at the highest level.

That is the network that I am striving to maintain for myself.  Like our national highway system, my network is in a constant state of construction.  That’s how it should be.

You might wish that you could build a network once and those people would be your go to people forever, but that’s not life.

Life is all about change and movement.  As I grow and change and move, the people whom I have and would like to have in my network are growing and changing and moving.  Sometimes we just go in different directions, and sometimes I need to ask someone to choose another route.  I am always looking for new people with whom I would love to build relationships, especially those whom are traveling the same road I’m traveling and who see a relationship with me as a way to propell us both forword at a much higher speed.

I believe we can build stronger networks by using our nets as tools to move everyone in our system forwad in the direction they choose to travel, not nets to capture just our clients for one transaction.

A well built network will support you for a lifetime, not just a transaction.